Offense is a Sickness...Not A Friend
This is an excerpt from another conversation in another format I am having concerning offense...and the use of "victimology". We are seeing untold instances of ethnicity and social status and employment status...really any "status" is found to be fair game...pitted against one another in the name of "white privilege...misogyny..."Wall-Streeters"...haters...bigots...phobic...
It is a rallying theme for people that cry out: "Those evil (fill in the blank) people don't understand you and they better pay!!!"
Whether in our own personal world view...or worse...those who would manipulate and take advantage of these things for their own personal gain...
Offense...being offended...makes you a "pawn"!!! Better get rid of it.
Let's see what God says about this...
"...bearing with one another and if one has a complaint against another forgiving each other as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive." Colossians 3:13
"Isn’t this the carpenter, the son of Mary and the brother of James, Joseph, Judas, and Simon? Aren’t His sisters here with us as well?” And they took offense at Him. Then Jesus told them, “A prophet is without honor only in his hometown, among his relatives, and in his own household.” So He could not perform any miracles there, except to lay His hands on a few of the sick and heal them" Mark 6:3-5
Too many Christians drink this poison of offense and unforgiveness as well. They can be just like those in Jesus' hometown..."Well they took my seat...they wouldn't let me sing...I couldn't give "a word"...Pastor Joe did this...Joel Osteen said that..."
Being offended is the number one subject (outside of the Lord Himself of course) I have...do...and continually will hammer on because it is the number one weapon Satan uses against us to divide and devour even our own brothers and sisters and leaders. It is the surest foolproof way of short-circuiting the power of God in your life...just as it did in Jesus' hometown. Unbelief spawned from offense kept many in bondage to the devil even while Jesus was there to free them.
Did you notice in the above verse we are commanded...we MUST forgive...? The Lord wants us to be liberated from this terrible cancer of the soul and the only medicine for it is forgiveness.!
Offense allows you to be a slave and puppet and pawn to both the devil and those who have learned the art of human manipulation. You will allow your personal hurt to become a license you wield that you may hurt others and/or get things to stroke your own pride or passions. The entire time believing you are accepted by God in your behavior.
See that guy getting sick above? I chose that image on purpose for this article. That is how we should see being offended, within ourselves. This article and another one I wrote on "Unforgiveness Woes" should be read hand in hand.
"Simply put...you have believed a lie. That lie is the idea that somehow someone has some special insight into "pain".
If I slam my hand with a hammer....or catch it in the car door..my hand doesn't differentiate the cause...it just feels pain. To believe that you...or anyone...can have some kind of hurt so unique that you accuse me or any one else of not being able to understand is the same as the white person who has cancer saying to the black person..."You may have cancer...But I REALLY have cancer and you just cant understand "my personal white cancer"...It is the Korean who had a heart attack saying to the African..."you had a heart attack...but I REALLY had a heart attack!" Can you imagine the Korean national actually indicting the black man because he can't possibly understand what it is to have a "Korean heart attack"?
Its stupid....and its a lie.
Pain...physical or emotional...is the result of a stimulus that caused it. Emotional pain...heart attack pain...stub the toe pain...these things do not differentiate between white or black or male or female or rich or poor. They are common to all humanity! In todays world of victimology, one would claim that other ethnics or social statuses cant understand the pain of these things the same way and therefore we should differentiate...alienate...and cause to remunerate.
Listen...Bill Gates is going to yell just as loud when he stubs his toe as the homeless person on the street!
This does not mean that different "hurts" may not require specific treatment. My "headache" pain will be relieved differently that my "heart attack" pain. Different ailments will require differing treatments and even recovery time. BUT these do not do away with the commonality to all people that ...we can be hurt...and the goal should be the healing of it...not the coddling of it as if you or anyone else is someone special and should be treated as such.
I have been in the hospital multiple times.
My goal going in was to get out as quickly as possible!
I didn't look at the bed and all those people taking care of me and all the service and all the attention as something to live within...but to endure SO I CAN BE HEALTHY AND GET THE HECK OUT OF THERE!
Offended people are sick people...and instead of living within their hurts as normal...healing must take place and that will start with recognizing "...this isn't right...no one owes me anything because of it...and let's get to work on being free!"
The idea that since someone evil mistreated you...makes you special or have some monopoly on pain that someone else doesn't understand...how is that?
It is this idea that everyone has some "pain and hurt" that others cannot understand and then held on to...is a reason that those who would divide our nation have found a feast and unlimited supply of fodder to continually divide us into our own little camps through victimology.
The fact is you are not special in your pain...you really don't have a right to special treatment or consideration from anyone except to serve you in getting well...and I would suggest that instead of coddling and feeding these things...you see it for what it is. A devil...a lie...a disease so virulent that it will continue to rejoice as it cripples you for the rest of your life...
...and then get treatment...not a celebration party!
And as long as you feel you or anyone else can caress your special pain and in your own perception makes you "non-understandable" you will have accepted and continue to drink in a poison in your soul that I will only be able to muster one reaction...to feel very sorry for you."